Spicy Margarita Pitcher (homemade version)

A few hours before serving, get the first 2 steps done: Slice up the first 2 jalapeños and add to a sauce pan with the water and sugar. Bring to a boil and let simmer 2 minutes. Pour out into a heat-safe cup to chill it in. Place in the fridge until cold. Slice up the other two jalapeños, add them to your pitcher, and cover with the tequila. Let it all chill in the fridge for a few hours before continuing. Closer to serving: Juice the limes, add the juice to the pitcher with the tequila, grand marnier or triple sec, and 1 cup of the jalapeño syrup. Stir, and serve over ice (rim the cups with tajín if desired).